Pray With Confidence

If the question, “Can you pray for us?” makes you feel like the pressure is on, then it may be time to revisit what prayer actually is. By definition, prayer is simply the way we communicate with God and God communicates with us. And, when we do it with confidence, it has nothing to do with us and everything to do with who He is and our relationships with Him.

In this week’s talk we discussed how one of the biggest obstacles to growing in our prayer lives and connecting with God through prayer is the fact that many of us are lacking in our ability to pray with confidence. However, this sense of lack often stems from the fact that we often make praying all about us. When we make our prayers about us we either approach prayer from a place of fear and insecurity or we approach our prayer lives from a place of knowing it all and pride.

Oftentimes we mistakenly make prayer more about “self” by feeling like we have mastered prayer, or even when we become fearful of praying in front of others. But, when we pray with confidence the pressure is actually off, because we aren’t praying because we are able, but because God is able. Another important aspect of praying with true confidence is knowing it isn’t about how you pray, but rather knowing who you’re praying to.  

According to John 1:12 when we accept Christ into our lives we are given the right to be called children of God. Upon accepting Christ, we are also adopted into the family of God and He becomes our Father. Interestingly enough however, I’ve noticed that many of us have no problem being called a child of God, but have a hard time connecting with God as our Father.

In fact, for many of us the idea of God being our Father feels awkward and can evoke strong negative emotions because of the negative experiences we’ve had with our biological fathers in the past. But you have to understand how God’s character is different. God is not like your earthly father, and in the Bible we learn that God’s characteristics as Father are unmatched.

In a world of absent fathers and dads who were never around, God is a present Father. (Psalm 27:10)

In a world where dads don’t always show up and come and go as they please, God is a consistent Father. (2 Timothy 2:13)

In a world where many of us do not have close relationships with our biological fathers, God is closer than the clothes on our backs. (Hebrews 13:5)

And in a world where our dads’ actions, or lack thereof, can have a negative effect on our lives, God knows what He is doing and He is competent. (Ephesians 3:20)

We can’t base our perspective of God as Father off of the negative experiences that we have had with our earthly fathers. We must learn to look at God through the lens of scripture, because the level of confidence we have in who God is, is based off of our perspective of who He is. This is key because our ability to pray with confidence is connected to who we believe God to be.

As we go through these 40 days of prayer, be challenged to get to know God as Father. If you need to forgive your biological father, then do that. But, more importantly whether you’ve had a great dad or not, I want to encourage you to spend some time in the word learning about God’s character and who He is. God is our good, good Father who is perfect in all of His ways. And when we truly embrace the biblical idea of what this looks like, we can pray with confidence knowing that our Dad in heaven always has our back.